UYL Podcast - Unleash Your Inner Adventuress Hi, this is Lisa. Welcome to another episode of Unfuck Your Life. This is the podcast that celebrates you unapologetically embracing your awesome life. Thanks for tuning back in. We've been off for the airways while, and thank you for coming back. We have missed you, and it's so good see you anyway. If you haven't yet taken a moment, if you could just follow the Unfuck Your Life Podcast. Ah, I would appreciate that because we have yet another fabulous episode for you in store today, which is unleash your Inner Adventurous, and I couldn't even find a definition for the word adventurous in the dictionary, and so I am choosing to the definition or this. That's what William Shakespeare did back in the day. He added 1500 words to the modern English language when he was writing his plays, there were words that wanted have that he just couldn't find a word that would fit. Is juicy. It's bold. Brash, it's wise, it's calm, its patient, it's loving, it's accepting, it's taking time to circle the wagons. Everything that you can think of that you wish that you imagined, that you saw, that you dreamed is what the adventurous. Embodies upon a time, we may have called it your inner goddess. I really love this word adventurous. Can't take the credit for creating it because I it on this fabulous TV show that's in Australia called Ms. Fisher's Modern Murder Mysteries. And hey, if you like the sixties, if you're really into empowered female and empowered women overall, I suggest you take it out. It's one of my, it's one of my binge-worthy watch. Anyway, in that episode, they have this club, this organization of these fabulous women, and even some men who are just brilliant and they're all brilliant in different ways. Just like you, just like all of you listening, we're not all the same. We're all brilliant in different ways and. Lots of people have given definitions that aren't always exactly the same of what adventure is, of what an adventurous is, of what a confidence is, because really, it's a version of that updated version of goddess. everyone's got an opinion. It's like assholes. Everyone has one. Anyway, take that anyway, as I continue with this, it's okay, so we get to define this and what would that be? That adventurous, that spirit, that embodiment, that knowledge that self-awareness. That lovingness, that compassion, all these things and more. She's kind, she's patient, she's loving, she's brass, bold. She's weird, she's wacky, she's intelligent, she's gorgeous. She's wacky, she's wonderful. She's wise, she's relaxed, and she knows pain and sometimes she lives in pain a lot more than she wishes. She experiences a gamut of emotions, of feelings, and is looking for that happiness first quotient. Now notice I said happiness first. I didn't define what happiness is. I didn't set a bar a mark where you should in quotations, cuz you know how we feel about should in quotations of where you should be, how you should do it. That page, that journal, that life is for you to write at this point in your life. This is where you get to regain the narrative, the is. Story. your narrative. No longer. Is it the shit and the crap that you were told who you were supposed to be, how you were supposed to feel, how you were supposed to act over and over and over and over and over and over and over as you were growing up, as you were experiencing life. And then based off of all of that is how you made the decisions as opposed to like when you were new and wondrous and the world was open and magical and you just knew cuz it vibrated from your soul that's there, it's still there inside of you. And you pick up that page, you just grab it right now and you pick up that page and you grab your pen, you grab your typewriter, you grab computer, you your iPad, whatever it and this where you right out, where you decide where you live your adventurous. That's adventurous. A proper noun. This is you as opposed adventurer. You are the adventurous claim. It you get to decide what that means. So, I have created for you a Playbook to assist you where you might get stuck. And if you go to LisaGrunden.com, you'll see right there an opt-in on the very first page for that for that inner adventurous playbook. So, let's get to it. Know what? You're defining it. Is it bold? Is it brash? And it's never an or situation. You are not bold or quiet. You are not silly or incredibly smart. You get to pick at all because it's an and universe. It's a yes and universe. I took a few improv classes. Just to see. I'd always loved going to improv shows. They were so always entertaining. They always so inspiring. And do you the secret is? The secret is one of the best ever things in the world. It's not the best kept secret. The secret is the juiciest of detail. And you know what it is? Each person has the prime directive, the prime motivator of making the other person they're on stage with, look good. Now, I want you to really breathe that in. Their prime mission directive to make the other person, the other people they're on stage with look good to play with them. So, what does that look like? What does that feel like? What is that in your life? Guess what? When you have that directive, and I said they all have that directive, so all the other people on stage, you know what? They're all making the other people on stage look good too. Now this is an important dis. Extinction. It's not made it up. We got to just grin and bear it. You're a piece of total crap and we're just going to pretend that we like you. No, Jesus, no. Not it at all. That's the, that's a fucked up way. That's the that we had been taught by foolish people foolishly wonderful people that's what they had been taught too. They were taught that it's an or universe can have this or that you can't have both, and that's just a crock of shit. If there ever was a crock of shit the feelings, the thoughts that it's not an and universe. Is the biggest crock of shit of all. So now what does that look like in your life? So, imagine you on the stage there with yourself. There's lots of one-woman shows, lots of one-woman shows, and it's your job and your mission and your purpose, your prime directive to make that other person on the stage with you, which is you, to celebrate her to shine a spotlight on her to give her an encouraging smile, a shoulder, a nod, a yes and a yes. And I see you a yes, and I celebrate you A yes. And I'm here to listen. Yes. And I release judgment. I just embrace what it is. And guess what? We let it go. what kind of an adventurous life would you be willing? Would you be ready as opposed to just doing it in your dreams? Which is by the way. It's got to start there. Everything begins with the imagination. It really does. Albert Einstein himself said, imagination is more powerful than knowledge because what gets everything going? It's what grabs that compelling curiosity. It's that you get out of bed, why you want to try something different? Why do you decide? To join this group because it's more than just the words that come out of your mouth. It's more than just the thoughts in your beautiful brain. There's, did you ever just get a feeling about somebody, like you see somebody across the room, or you just saw 'me on tv or, I don't know, you looked at something in a magazine and sure. Maybe it was a sexual attraction. Maybe it was a just, wow, that is, how can I be more like her? How can I be more like, because it's that connection that you feel is very visceral, and it's not three-dimensional, it's not two-dimensional, it's not one dimensional. It takes the full spectrum going five dimensional realities where you embrace all of your senses, that your mind, your body and spirit connected. And in more literal terms, that means that your brain, your heart, your throat, and your gut are working harmoniously together. And when that happens, that's the place where you go what if maybe I decided to, you know what? Once upon a time I was sitting in a tiny little. It wasn't even an apartment. I was renting a room in someone's home and did this in my forties, I didn't do all that. I'm in my twenties when the rest of the world was exploring the world. I was busy being married and having very tiny little children. And so, I lived life a little differently and. While we were there and I was in this group with these two others, oh, just fabulous women that just, ugh, created all kinds of magic, not only in their lives in the world around us. And so, it used to be so much fun on Tuesday mornings to get together. And we went to the coffee shop and I had tea, they had coffee, and we would sit there and we would mark. About an hour, 90 minutes sometimes that we dreamed we created. We supported one another and in that group was the first time I mentioned that I have absolutely no idea how to do it. My guys in Afghanistan, I really want to get to Dubai. I've been there once. I was there on vacation, the two of us met together. We were supposed to go to Egypt. That's when Egypt went through a revolution of sorts of, its. and all of a sudden, we had 10 days in Dubai and I thought it was a magical place. And my hubby, my almost hubby, he wasn't quiet, my hubby then was in Afghanistan and Dubai was not a very long. Plane ride from Afghanistan and I was just like, I have no idea how to get there. I have no idea. Once what I would do once, I was there, other than continue working with hypnotherapy, continue doing all of the healing work that I don't know how to make that happen there. But hey, you know what, when you get there, you figure the rest out, right? And that's where I, I. I was brave enough to express those words because those two women that were in that group for me, we had that yes and mentality. We didn't go, oh, that's a stupid idea. We didn't shit on each other's dreams. We didn't say, oh, that's a stupid idea. We all celebrated together because this is what it's like. It's like you gain the power of your subconscious mind. I am a hypnotist. In hypnotherapy, we always talk about gaining the power of the subconscious mind, accessing the power of the super subconscious that is you. Because it's more than just your brain. It's much more than just your brain. Your brain can be confused, your brain can be, your brain can be tricked. That is why there's always, excuse me, not always why. Often a differentiation between your conscious awareness and your subconscious awareness. And it's okay, what's really going on in there? And then it. Traditional hypnosis, it ignores the rest of the body. They specifically program the subconscious mind program, the subconscious mind program, the subconscious mind, and there's so much more that is you. You can see, you can hear, you can feel, you can taste, you can touch, you can know you have a. Gut instinct. All of you have had at least one experience, whether you're acknowledging it or not, where you just knew something. You just knew it. Whether it was something good, whether it was something bad, it doesn't matter. You just knew it. That is your gut response. That is. In all species, that is the sur. That is what creates the survival of the species. That's what keeps everything going. All plants have it. Animals have it. Trees have it. We all have it. You are born with it and connecting your brain and your heart and your gut and your throat, and it gets easier as you're hanging out with other people that are supporting you, that are, yes. ANDing you that are saying yes. Yes, because your job is not figuring out the whole thing, the show of it all before you can even take a step. That's not it. I just knew I wanted to get to Dubai. Let me tell you another little secret about that. I actually wanted to get to Afghanistan. It's just that I had some head trash about it, and the whole fucking world had head trash about it because, hey, Lucy, you know what? Afghanistan's a war zone at this point. You're not going to go there. It's a dangerous, rah, lots and lots of stories, and so I could access the, I get to it's a place. It's a magical place. It's a place that I have been, and even though I don't know it intimately, it's a place that I can navigate. They have a pretty good metro. I can get around. There are places to see thing to do. A lot of people speak English. A lot of the science were in both is they were both in Arabic and in English in a lot of places. And so, from the time that we first started talking about that, I was in my hotel room in Dubai two months later. I'm kid you not. I kid you not, because this is the magic of those kinds of things and actualizing your dreams and doing it. That's why I created that adventurous playbook. It's not even a guy book. It's a playbook. It's something for you to actually pick up and write in, and color in and draw in, and just. Fuse your ideas and inspiration in, and then when you join our Facebook group to go with that. Ooh la. Lots of magic because you are in touch with the people that celebrate you. So, I don't know about you. I can only speak for myself, and I can speak for the thousands of women and men that I have coached over the last 15 years or so, and we all. A similar origin story where maybe we felt like a black sheep. I always called myself the purple sheep. And where we didn't fit in our family, yada, yada. There are just stories that come. And our parents had stories about their parents and their parents had stories about their parents, and we'll talk about that later on in a different podcast. The thing about it is that there's a lot of people out there to shit on your dreams. Remember ideas about adventure, ideas about confidence, ideas about success, out, they're like assholes. Everybody has one. Everybody has one. And just because someone else has it doesn't mean it's yours. Doesn't mean it's your truth. Have you ever. I've known, I've really been aware of this a lot lately, that there's somebody they know I'm a hypnotherapist, and so they're like, Lisa, what would I do about this? And I look at them and I see their beautiful soul and their beautiful spirit, and then I see that shell around them that says, oh need to be safe. I can't let anybody see the real me. People won't like me. It's, it is not safe. Their whole world is dangerous. And I see all of that. And then there's these. Barks of hope that are like, please see me. Please see me. Please hear me. I'm longing for connection. All of us are longing for connection. That's why I created the Facebook group. That's why I've created this playbook, because we all want that, crave that. What might it be like when we were all sitting together, just like in that little coffee shop where my friends and I, we all celebrated each other's dreams. we were all entrepreneurs. I was the only one in the healing arts. One of them was a hairdresser. The other one, oh my goodness, she was in all different kinds of MLMs. My most favorite that she did, her favorite that she did was wine. My most favorite she did was this jewelry that she was selling, and I can't even right now remember who the jewelry maker was. They just had fabulous stuff and it was just so much. To be in that environment. So, I wanted to just take a moment because that's what this podcast is. Remember I said this is the podcast that celebrates you unapologetically embracing your awesome life, your awesomeness. Your awesomeness. Your awesomeness, let's say it over and over and over, because you know what? You can't learn anything that you don't already know. It's a scientifically proven fact, and let me tell it to you this way. The easiest thing for me to share this with you is the ABCs. We don't tell the ABCs to the kids one time and say, come on dumbass. You should know it. Absolutely not. Oh, my goodness. We make it fun. We give them crayons and pencils and we give them paper and we teach them how to write the alphabet. sing a song about their ABCs, and then we give them books. A is for apple, B is for ball, C is for cat, D is for dog, or any of those things like that. D is dynamo, E is eccentric, F is fabulous. All these can remember the creating the ABCs and do it over and over again. And playful, engaging, connected ways. And that's what you do with your awesomeness. And it isn't, for some people, it wasn't only some kids that could learn their ABCs. It's all kids. It's all kids. And yes, there may be learning disabilities or things like that. That's all ancillary. What it is, this is a celebration of you, the celebration of us being in that environment. I this podcast. Yes. For those of you who are listening to the first time you know the podcast is called Unfuck Your Life, and so maybe it's a little shocker to some that, you know what, I have this. I have this rated for explicit language because that's what happens. And for my whole life I'd give you share each time a little bit of my backstory. Me growing up, I had to be the good girl. I had to be the smart girl. I had to be. Even though I never considered myself pretty when I was little, as I look back at pictures now, I'm thinking, wow, what an awesomely gorgeous little girl. And I see that when I see all people. I see that when I see all women now, and I had to be very quiet and I have a tendency to get really excited. When I get really excited. My voice gets really loud here's a field of vibrations. Even my hubby to this day, he goes, Lisa, I love you, but please, right now, can you just take it down a peg or two? Cuz I'm not quite ready for the full experience of you just yet. I'm just waking up and I'm like, okay, we can do that. That's where you get to play. See, he didn't knock down my awesomeness. He celebrated my awesomeness and asked for me to connect with him in a way that works. Absolutely. That's what we do. And the really cool thing. Is as you embrace your awesomeness, your adventurous as you go on that, because you don't have to climb every mountain. You don't have to at the top of your lungs. A very good friend of mine she felt not it was her husband who told me at first, cuz he's a good friend of mine too, that, she's he's Lisa Jane loves you guys and she'd love to hang out. And the truth of the matter is that she really loves. Our daughters too. And right now, our daughters want to hang out with her and that's what she wants to do. How fabulous is that? This doesn't mean that you have to climb a glass ceiling that some asshole set up that in order to be successful and you got to be one of the one percenter, you got to do this. I embrace the one percenter; however, you know what? We each our, we have our 1% ness. That's our awesomeness. That's what that life that we want to live, it's that choosing that happiness first. Remember at the beginning of this podcast, I told you, I didn't tell you what happiness was. I said, choose happiness first. Choose happiness for you first. You know what? In those mornings when you don't want to fucking get outate bed, you feel like crap. You're so impressed that you can't get up in that moment. Wonder, be curious. If I were choosing to be 0.0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0 1% happier than I was just a moment ago, what might that be like? And see just that question, just asking the question in. I'm like, what might that be? Like if I were choosing and I give you an outrageous percentage number? There's no way that you can really. There are a few people. There's a wait. Most of us could really calculate what would like. However, that compelling curiosity is a fabulous thing. It's a fabulous thing. If I were choosing to be 0.0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0 0, 1% more happy than I was just a moment ago, what that might, that feel like? What might that look like? And then for just a moment, imagine, visualize, pretend cuz somewhere inside of you, and let it shine out of your eyes and let that creep into your heart is that choosing that happiness first, it's yes. And ending you, which automatically gives other people whether they join your inner circle or not Per miss, for shining Nel light on their adventurous awesome self. Their own inner adventurous, what might that be like? So, do you want to come play? Remember the website, LisaGrunden.com. That's my e giving you an email address. It's Lisa grin.com. There's the opt-in there, and we'll get you your playbook just as soon as we can. And, there’ll be a note there to join the Facebook group because we would love to see you. So, until next time, yes. And you are seeing you heard. celebrate you unapologetically embracing your awesomeness. Till next time, is Lisa. Bye-bye.