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Ep. 95: Revitalizing Your Thinking for a Thriving Life
Hey, gorgeous beings. Welcome. to Another podcast, episode of unfuck. your life. Please if you haven't done. So. already, take a second to subscribe and follow this podcast. And thank you. Thank you. All of you who are following this podcast already. here is where we have fun. This is the podcast that unapologetically celebrates you. Your magic, your fabulousness. You are.
on. DiUS Life weird wacky, wonderful, same kind of weird as me. Same kind of different, weird as me. It all counts. I'm so glad that you're tuning in today. I really appreciate it. because you know, what. I have been a student of mindset for a very long time. And I've learned a lot of ways not to do it. I've learned a lot of great ways to do it.
And there are a couple of things that are in common, just there's a lot of different tricks. There's a lot of different techniques. And when it really comes down to it, When it really comes down to it, it all comes down to intention. And it all comes down to With that intention and then it drills down even further with you having that intention. And is that filled with joy?
And yesness And I can do this and I am doing this and we're going for it. And I've taken all of my wild wacky friends along for the ride. Or is there, but if I do this, I'll be selfish. I'll be conceited. People won't like me. It's not good if I stand out apart from the others, people just don't like it when people are just so freaking successful and happy.
I was at I was at a karaoke bar once to the two guys where friends of mine from work and they had these two girlfriends and they were there and I didn't do a lot of dating. back then I just did a lot of things with friends. their girlfriends when they had left the table. They said, Lisa, we don't like people who smile all the time.
And they did, it by laughing and, saying it lighthearted, but I looked at them. And of course I was too much of a people pleaser cuz I couldn't say, wow, you fucking bitches. You know what I mean? And it's just wow, how do you ever. Bond When somebody says, it's just not, know, we don't like people who are happy all the time. What's wrong with you? that you are happy. I'm like, I'm out. I don't have.
I'm thinking in my head that, my kids are, they're at their dad's house. This weekend and I get to be out Oh my goodness. You know what I mean? Here I am on a Thursday night and I'm out singing, having fun, doing dancing on the floor, the stuff that I just love to do.
And of course there's a smile on my fucking face. Are you kidding? Why wouldn't there be, why wouldn't it be hanging out here? If it weren't any fun. So now. See how that comes around to intention. I had my kids were taken care of. They were staying with their at, they went to their dad's house.
That it was a night out. They were singing and there was dancing. So there was music. and The whole trifecta. Is how I look at that. So now as you are doing a mindset makeover, Many of us.
Myself included. Start with from the perspective of not having it. That.
We couldn't imagine it, I had wanted a mini Cooper with all of my heart. I had, a, I had gotten a really nice pay raise at work. My son had turned 16, and so I wanted to give him the card that I had and I wanted to buy myself my first new car. And I really wanted a mini Cooper. I really wanted a mini Cooper, God, I didn't know how, I didn't know where you could buy mini Coopers.
cuz back then they were. They, there weren't a lot of dealerships in the area. And I didn't know where to get it. I didn't know if I didn't know how I would afford it. I. There were just a lot of things. And so had I continued with the creating that mini Cooper going, I'll never be able to afford it. I dunno where to find it, all that kind of stuff, because then what happened is I kept thinking about mini Coopers.
I kept thinking about Mini Coopers. And then I would see a couple of mini Coopers. They weren't around the way that they are today and they didn't have all the different kinds of versions. There was the Cooper and the Cooper S. Back then when I bought Mom Mani Cooper. And so I would see, I actually hung out by this guy's car.
mi, his mini Cooper waiting for him to come out of the grocery store to ask him where he bought his mini Cooper. And I lived in Madison, Wisconsin at the time. And the closest dealership was in Milwaukee at international autos, which was about, I think it was like about 70, 80 miles from my house. And I had made plants. to go.
And get a test drive with a mini Cooper. And on that day that I was gonna do it. I started talking myself out of it. I was feeling of tired, really achy. I did not wanna go drive for an hour and a half in traffic to just go test, drive a car And my friend looked at me with kind of some disappointment on his face.
And. Huh. I was just like, huh. And then the phone rang. And it was my daughter, my 15 year old daughter. going, Mom, when are you coming home so that we can go test, drive a mini Cooper and she set up with that much excitement in her voice and right away. It was that spark had reignited. It was blowing and it's okay, I'll be home in 20 minutes and we'll take off from there and we will go.
And she's like, okay. And I said, then we'll just pick up, di something to eat for dinner on the road. And so we drove and we got there and, oh my God, the mini Cooper guy, he had the easiest job in the world. He just took my copy of my license. He made a copy of my license, and gave me the keys to the car.
And we started driving And so then it got to be to the point of okay, instead of how am I gonna afford this? Where's the money gonna come from? It was like, okay, what color do you think we should get? I think that we should get a stick because it's a little bit more fun to drive a stick.
What do you think about getting a stick And my daughter and I going back and forth on this and I think it should be red and oh yeah. Wouldn't it be? Cool. I saw one with white wheels and how cool was it? And Menace Court, I wanna have a sunroof. and it needs to have a CD player. Yes. I'm old school.
This was before iPods and all that kind of stuff. So I was like, had. to have a CD player. And it had to have a sunroof and moonroof, and those were my requests. And so I get there and I talk to the guy and I ask him some questions about financing. And Then he's going on and on. I'm like, you know what? I bet I can call my bank. And I bet I can get this thing financed. So that night my daughter and I picked out the car, we actually saw, they took the car from where they had it saved and they brought it to me.
And they brought it so I could see it. And the very next day I got it financed. And so my daughter and I took off the next day, we took off to pick up the mini Cooper. And we do believe that. My I'm trying to remember. I think that my car payment like that on a brand new car was like 340 bucks or something like that is what it was. And somehow I never noticed.
That money missing from. Any of my additional money, it's never was. The money was always there without even. Thinking about it. Because I took the money part off and you might be saying, okay, Lisa, you live in a nice delusional land. Don't let your bank account dictate what you can and cannot create. That has fucking little to do with mindset mastery. It has nothing to do with manifestation.
It is all about you being in the right place in the right moment, clear on your intention. Now that intention. It must be very specific. I wanted a mini Cooper. I wanted it to be red. It had to have white walls, and it needed a sun roof, and I wanted it to have a CD plan, and it had to be really easy for me to Boom. Boom. Real specific. Get really clear on what it is that you are creating for your thriving life. First off, your intention is you've got a fucking thriving life. You do. It doesn't matter how much money you had yesterday. It doesn't matter. What you thought of yourself, your beliefs, your talents five fucking seconds ago does not matter.
Let's get get excited, get excited. There is a vibration that exists with joy. That does not exist and we can did this and Oh, I can do that. And Oh, my body aches with this. and I have this problem and I got this and then it's oh my goodness. Yeah, wouldn't it be fun. It's gonna be red. and It's gonna have white walls. And so now talking about your body. Okay. and your thriving life oh, you know what? It's so fabulous that all the clothes in my closet fit, somehow they just all magically fit. Oh my God.
It is so much fun to drink water. Do you see how this mindset makeover is working? It's getting clear and the intention is joyful. You're being real specific. It doesn't mean that you have to have an itemized list and everyth. It has to be checked off. In order for it to work. It's yes, it's gonna be this. And when you have somebody playing it off of you, like my daughter and I were, it's really important.
To have people in your sphere. That's why I've created a community with the adventurous that Join my community on Facebook. It is so important that there are people with you that support you and help you see this. And they're like, yes. And you don't just feed off of each other. You send that energy back and forth, and you're like playing with energy balls. You're like playing with mindset mastery, and boom, Volley to you. Volley back.
Yes. I see it for you. Holy smokes. Look at how cool you look. Oh my goodness. I haven't seen you in that dress in such a long time and you look so fabulous. Oh my goodness. Ah, look at you behind the wheel of that car. Look at you, you just look so Be, You're just so happy every single day. Wow. There was so much magic unfolding in your life. That promotion, you decided that you were gonna go for it and you did it.
You decided to move, not only across the country, you decided to move across halfway across the world. How did you freaking create your job in Afghanistan? I gotta tell you that And you're gonna, they're gonna be able to read more about that in my book that I'm working on right now, the misadventures of a redhead in the middle east.
Because my intention was clear that I was going to be there. My intention was this. My intention was first. I was going to Dubai. Because I'd been to Dubai once before. And so it wasn't an unknown place. My guy was in Afghanistan, he was working he's an engineer. He was working with a Corps of engineers at
the army engineers at that time. And building helicopter. building landing, landing pans for the Marines, for their helicopters on camp. Leatherneck at the time. And I was so clear that I was going to be there. I was just so clear that I was going to be there with my guy. And we were just having this experience.
Living where we're so alive because I've remembered hearing a story. About when Cuba, when Castro was taking over in Cuba. And there was the revolution that all the writers and stuff were there, because there was so much vitality and youth and excitement energy in the air that they were able to feed off that energy, creating it fueled their creative juices and they felt so alive.
And I just knew that exact thing would hap thing would happen. And so I had. Two friends. That we were doing. We were doing this voling back and forth that I just discussed when someone would say what they want and we would support them. And it wouldn't even occur to us to sit there and point out. I'm doing quotes with my air quotes, with my fingers right now.
The real facts about creating something like that. We didn't mess around with stuff like that. It's like, Intention it's energy. Oh, my goodness. And I see it. My friend. Bought me a little travel mug. And I had this yellow dress that I wanted to be wearing there and she called it the little yellow dress, magical mug, and oh, I still wear that yellow dress today. Can you believe it?
That's what happens when as you are. You're just in that space mindset. Mastery is being real clear. on what it is that you want, not paying attention to details, like how the fuck are you gonna get there? If I had heard all of the milestones. Even the day before people at the hotel that I was staying at was in, living in Dubai were like, Lisa, it's not safe. We don't want you to go. We don't want any harm to come to you. It's a very dangerous place. And all I could think of was my guy is there.
and I get to be with my guy. And it all happened. It all unfolded As I look back on my life. I've had plenty of moments of poor pitiful me. And in those poor pitiful me moments, life pretty much fucking sucked. I didn't seem to have any friends. People were talking shit about me all the time and people might still talk shit about me and I just don't care.
Like I used to, and if I sink into a moment where I do care, I coach clients all the time. You know what, when you read the comments, if the comments aren't nice just skip over them, you can delete them if you want. And don't.
Bypass them walk on by fly on by float on by cruise on by. Because that's your mindset mastery. You are a fucking gorgeous funk, delicious, powerful, magical. Being. How do I know that. Because that is your right. That is how you came in. It is how you came in. It is just all within you. And you wouldn't get dreams.
And ideas if you couldn't make them happen. And your job is never. How do you make it happen? Your job is the excitement, the juices, the joy, the intention. I would like a red mini Cooper. I wanted to have a sunroof. I wanted to have white rims. I wanted to have the only thing I wasn't clear on was the Stripe. I wasn't I kept going back and forth, so I didn't get a Stripe. Those stripes, I was racing stripes on my car.
and Everything else. The CD player. And I loved that there was the, there was a little Little mesh thing so that when the sunroof was open, I could pull the mesh thing so that I still got to have the open breeze. But I didn't have the sun being down. And I have very fair skin. And I love the sun. However, sometimes driving cross country, it can be a little much that too much heat.
And I had heated seats. I didn't even know how delicious those were until I had them for the first time. So your job is getting clear about specifics like that, that you want a relationship. You want a relationship with a person that listens to you that you get to laugh That has some similar interest to you.
That introduces you to new things. That it's just so easy to be with them. And that even though all moments aren't easy. Yes. You fight sometimes. So the fuck what that, you have great sex, you have great conversations. Those are the kinds of things that you focus with. So many people get focused on, He is gotta make this much money and he's gotta. tall because I used to focus on that stuff.
And you know what? I created a bunch of narcissistic. People coming into my life that just kept feeding my me. Lisa, you need to be thinner. Lisa you're too fat, Lisa, you're too fat. Lisa, you're too fat. That's what I kept attracting. And I was just like,
I had to believe in my own magicalness and get out of the way from my thriving, thriving, thriving, beautiful life. And my mindset makeover I had to get out of the. It's conceited To think so highly of yourself, it's conceited to love yourself because that's just a crock of shit. And it's not just a single crock of shit. It's Crocs and crocs of shit.
Loving yourself, you being worthy of that. You're this magical babe. You deserve a magical relationship with him, with them, with her, with whomever. Whatever it is. What, whoever they are.
That is you. So when we're talking mindset, mastery, baby. It's in the heart. It's in the gut. It goes to your gorgeous brain And you speak it. You be it. And on those moments. Where. There's less than.
You stop in your tracks. And you reconnect. You reconnect.
It's gonna be red. It's gonna have white rims. It's gonna be a sunroof. and a CD player. How much fun is it gonna be? And then I was driving down the road. How much fun is it gonna be? How much fun is it gonna be? How much fun is it gonna be? That's you in your life? Your mindset master. How much fun it is how much joy there is the smile on your face. That is sexy as fuck. I can't wait. I want to hear all of. about it. We're gonna be talking a lot about this topic an upcoming podcast, We're gonna be talking a lot about it because you gorgeous being, you are worth it. So till next time, this is Lisa.
Celebrating you. unapologetically being your weird, Wonderful. wacky self. See you next time. Bye-bye.
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