Episode Transcript
Ep. 86: UYL Podcast - Stop Fixing Yourself. You are Not Broken!!
Hey everybody. Welcome to another episode of You. Got It? Un Fuck your Life. Not just your life. You are specious. You're spark delicious. You are fabulous, you're adventurous, you are life. And let me tell you, you know what? If you're. Wait there yet, or if you're already there yet, spread the magic, share the magic and don't leave until the miracle occurs because you are fabulous.
And what is it? I always say, you are gorgeous. I'm Lisa. I am your hostess. Sometimes it feels like the mostess and sometimes it's a great big smile, and I'm so happy that you're tuning in today because this podcast is the podcast that celebrates you. you apologetically embracing your awesome life.
That's right. So if you haven't done so already, please follow this particular podcast. I really appreciate it because today we are going to talk about maybe this is only me. But I know it's not because I've worked with thousands of people and really work on this whole concept called fixing ourselves.
Have you guys ever heard about that? Or maybe you've done it or maybe you saw somebody else that did it. And it's it started with a whole list of things that you just wanted to change about yourself, and then somehow it morphed in, into the consciousness, into the in, just into the reality where it wasn't just changes that you chose.
Embrace and incorporate into your life. It came to basically a shit list on you, a dump list on you that you know anybody who ever had an opinion. And you know what I say about other people's opinions. They like assholes. Everybody has one. Yes. This is the podcast where? Huh? we get down and dirty. And I love a colorful metaphor and I love people who use color Me metaphor for colorful metaphors in fabulous ways.
And that wasn't the intention. The intention really was, is that, hey, you know what? I choose to be a little happier. I choose to be a little thinner. I choose to. I choose to. I have different interests. I I choose to. And maybe I won't dwell on this, and then it became like this downward spiral somehow that this happened because I don't really think this was conscious, although it is conscious because all of a sudden, like all of this stuff clung onto it and every shit fest or storm fest or every negative thought that ever were like, glammed on and it's stuck and it's And then it became this list of if you want the perfect mate, then you gotta eat the perfect mate. So you need to shape up, you need to stop doing that shit that you're doing and you gotta be better instead of, you know what? Absolutely. All those things that you desire are there for you.
And now, All of those things are that what you already embrace yourself, even if you're not aware of it. So in those places where you're not quite feeling it, or maybe it's a one instead of a seven or a six instead of an 11, is that here? These are a few things. A few suggestions, a few ideas, support, oh my goodness.
Getting the support of the subconscious mind. This super conscious, inviting all of your crazy friends. And that's why I created for a limited Time Only. You can go out to my website, lisa grin.com and I created the Unleash Your Inner Adventurous Playbook, which is the ultimate guy. Spark delicious adventure your life.
Woo. Just go to lisa garner.com and you can opt in and get your free download now, because it's reminders of all those little things. It's not this. Big, tough never ending project. Like I've once had an uncle, he's been gone for many years, who's been 40 fucking years fixing his house. Okay? Now let me tell you what the culmination of 40 fucking years of constantly fixing your house is.
Nothing was ever good enough. He procrastinated on everything. There weren't steps, there weren't walls, there was just a, there was just all that sheetrock shit underneath it that my aunt finally painted. There was, holes in the ceilings and holes in the floors and, and it was just like, okay, you've been working on your house for 40 years, and how did it get to be this?
And he didn't even put the front porch steps the whole time that I knew him. There were never any front steps to the porch, which was. Four feet off the ground. There were never any steps to it. And after his wife had died, after my aunt passed away, he put the steps there. And I remember her friend saying to me that, why couldn't he have done that while she was still alive?
And that's what these fixed set projects get. All of a sudden it just becomes too big and too much. And you get and you. get
Enveloped in the muck, in the mur and it's like quicksand and it's like tar and it sticks to you and it drags you down and it steals your life force and all that kind of stuff. And you're not fucking broken. You're not.
And how do I know? Because let's have a little chat about the day that you were born, about the day that most people discovered that you were going to be born. And even if this isn't your exact thing, there were people in the universe that supported in some way, even if it wasn't your birth parents or any of those people related to them.
The world is always celebrating brand new life babies. and I was just at BJ's just a short while ago picking up some yogurt. And when I was returning the cart there, blocking the cart was this mother and her mother and this teeny tiny little baby that I don't think. Was six weeks old. It was very tiny, and that grandmother was just oh, just, I'm putting kisses everywhere in inhaling that baby scent and all that kind of stuff. And that is you. That is your birthright, not just the day you were born, not just six weeks into your life. I've been on so many calls. I've been on so many trainings where I have chatted with people and. People about essence and vibration and they're so locked on language and words and they forget.
It's about essence and vibration. There's a squeezing you. I can't get enough of you. You're just just so wonderfully fabulous and you make measles. so fabulous. Just being in your presence. That's who you are. That is the basis of you. That was all of us, regardless of what. your origin story is that is in there.
It is your birthright and claim it. So now just imagine that you go on this curiosity, spark a adventurous journey because you're an adventurous, now you like to explore, you've learned to expand. Oh, so curious about what is it like to be with nobody. Expecting a single fucking thing from you. Wow. I've been on phone calls before teaching phone calls when one of the students, all of a sudden one of their kids comes running in and everyone on the call, cuz I see them on Zoom now, everyone, you can just see their vibrations change if you're tuned into that, if you're able to see those kinds of things, which I am.
At any rate, you feel it. Everyone feels it. How do I know you feel it? Because there are some people that you feel get away as fast as I can. Some places, some situations, sometimes it's a little clogged and you can't quite see it. And others it's ah, this just feels in this moment, in this space.
Everything just feels so right and that is your origin and that teeny tiny little baby. Is inside of each of us somewhere is I love you. I love you. I just can't get enough of you. I know I keep repeating this, and maybe you're like, ah, gag me with a spoon already, and okay, that's fine. Totally fine.
What part of you. Does not deserve to be freaking fabulous and to celebrate it because then here comes the thing. The not going around saying, Hey, I'm here. Come check me out and absorb some of this fabulousness.
The baby just beams, fabulousness. You just beam it and it comes to your eyes. And it's
through your voice, and your heart expands, and sometimes other people's hearts expand when they're around you because you've uncovered the secret. It's choosing happiness first. The path to love. The path of fabulousness and it's in each of us. And the exploration of the, remember of those things where your heart is lighter and more light beams from you and more breath flows through your body and more smiles and lightness feel. Fill your energy, feel. And the more that you draw beings like that into your sphere and it becomes not so difficult to see step number two and the stop fucking fixing yourself and really just embrace your fabulous cuz you're not goddamn broken. It is for no good reason. For no. Every single day. Every single day. A stranger, somebody that you know works at the cash register, maybe somebody that you usually see at the coffee place, or whether it's someone who works there or a customer.
People that work there, they have name tags. And just imagine when you're standing in line and you're up at the checkout and you offer them your smile, regardless of how slow they are, how fast they are, how sucky
they are. You know what I see only once in a great while is does someone. Choose not to come out of their negative story. Only every once in a while, usually people all of a sudden go, wow, they're just smile there. That smiles at me. And then as they're going through that process of, do I trust those, that kind of stuff, they're just like, you know what? She just, all she said was hello and offered me a smile and all that.
Felt good. You know what I'm talking about. Have you ever seen dogs? Have you've ever seen little kids? And I know that you have because it happened many times. My husband has two grandchildren, so I guess I do too. And When she was little, when she was just a little baby and I don't know, like eight months old or something, blah, blah, blabbing a little bit.
I'm really talking and people would just stop and they would just go, oh, all of a sudden I just feel so light because can just feel it in their energy field and that's you. There's just so much uck and worse, so much are a shit storm. They got dumped on us and what we forgot is that shit storm, that manure is what makes things grow. And you don't have to grow more shit. You get to grow flowers. You get to grow color, you get to grow food, you get to grow. You get to dig in the dirt, you get to play with ponies, you get to play with puppies, you get to play with yourself. You get to make sandcastles.
Now, do you see how this is different, how the voice changes?
Are you feeling the energy connection to where you are? Maybe you are, maybe you're not. Wherever you are is exactly where you're supposed to be. Exactly where you're supposed to be. How cool is that? There's nothing you need to do right now, except be exactly where you're supposed to be. And you know me.
What might it be like if you chose to be 0.0 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0, 0. How many zeros can we put here? 1% happier than you were a couple seconds ago. Wouldn't that be delicious? Wouldn't that be fabulous? And this is that celebration of you. And it's not just for some babies. There weren't this baby.
Get it. They didn't have to be born into a really elite family. They didn't have to have a fuck ton of money. It didn't have, didn't matter where they were born. I've shared this story of a friend of mine, our client of mine, one of my clients, I call them friends too, client of mine that she grew up three poor, she grew up with a mom and she had a lot of brothers and sisters that had, and I don't think anybody had the same dad and her mother was a drug addict, and all of her siblings were drug addicts as they grew up.
She was the only one that was, she would sit. Through the dingy window, looking out in Chicago, looking out into the grayness, and she would just say to herself every single day, there must be someplace prettier than this, and I'm gonna find it.
Imagine saying that to yourself every day. Do you know what she does for a living now?
She takes people on adventures to magical places. Beautiful places. And guess what? Because she's their guide. She doesn't have to pay for it. She gets to take people. That's how she gets paid to make her living. How crazy. How wonderful. How fantastic is that? Taking people to places that are beautiful, that take your breath away, that allow you to breathe even more because you're not broken.
You don't need to be fixed. You need a little bit more of, left. Loving that vibration showing up as you, and every time you choose that 1e-07%, you become a little lighter, you become a little happier, and as you do some of the activities in the playbook, in the unleash your adventurous playbook that you've chosen by going to the opt-in, then you're just like, And you get to leave more stuff behind.
And now that leads to finishing the smiling at those strangers saying hi to the person at the checkout asking them how their day was. You have absolutely you nothing that you want from them, and there's absolutely nothing that you you need to do for them to just in a moment, share an experience, an uplifting experience. And anytime you. , it's enough uplifting experience, whether the person receives it or not attached to the outcome, and then something magical happens. And that's number three. Cuz as I started doing this, I challenged myself to do this experience cuz anything, any experiments that I give to my clients, I do first myself.
And there came the day. When I was like, okay, all right, so I'm gonna do this, and and I, all of a sudden just smiling just became more of my state of being. It already was most of the time except when I forgot. And the next thing that I knew, people coming up to me and they were saying, hi, you have such a pretty smile. I really like your hair. Oh, where did you get that jacket? And I was like, the first time this happened, I remember thinking to myself, oh wait. I'm supposed to make you feel good. And that made me feel good, and that made them feel good. And then that made. feel good. And that made them from good.
And then that vibration just of spreads out and everyone is smiling and laughing. Do you know that men in their twenties and I am a lot older than my twenties, a lot older than my twenties. Regularly Ask me out. Yes. I am not kidding. I am not kidding. I am still, quite a few pounds.
Heavier than I'd really like to be, and quite a few decades older than my twenties. And it's that energy that people are responding to. It's not what happens because you physically make something attractive of you. It's that inside coming out. It's that baby in you, that new life that's not burdened by all this crap and shit that happens in a 3D world. We don't have to accept that anymore. And then even on the days that we do accept, or even the months or the years,
every time that you choose differently, you choose once again. Oh yes. Seeing through New Life, new Eyes, this is a new experience, even though it's experience I had five minutes ago. This experience is newer. This experience. I wonder what fun lies here. I wonder even what safety, because your safety is paramount. A lot of the reasons for a lot of this shit, and I'll go into this, is because crap that happened to us, whether your stories one of sexual abuse, whether yours is physical abuse, whether yours is drug abuse, whether there is addiction issues.
And let me tell you that three of those were my. story. three of them. I never did drug grit or alcohol, but food addiction. Holy crap. I spent decades in that. And every once in a while I'll still go down under a little bit. And then I remember, you know what, this doesn't feel as good as choosing life. This is the process and learning not to beat yourself up.
Learning more, embracing more, that lightness. is you, this is your right, you are born. this way. Sharing that with others. Offering them their, your smile in a few kind words saying their. If you know it every single day and then, ooh, all of a sudden they're saying things to you and you're saying things to them.
Not a week goes by and sometimes not even a day goes by. When someone comes up to me and they say, you remind me of Miss Frizzle, and I always smile and.
I say thank you. I love Miss frizzle. She is Luton Lynn's character on the Magic School bus on pbs. Oh, fabulous teacher. Yes. I embrace that. I'm like, yes, I am here to teach the world to explore many different things and to love so many things about themselves in the world and to grow and to expand and to be spark delicious and juicy and
Ah, can you imagine that? Those are the conversations that we have. Those are the things that are are happening. So as we sit here with our strategies and our techniques, don't forget the vibration, the lightness that is you.
Why Oh, you And look in the mirror every single day and say
hi, gorgeous. Now if your journey's anything like mine, it was hard to look myself in the eyes the first few times that I did that, maybe more than the first few times. It was really hard to say it with a smile. It was really hard to say it with a strong, powerful voice. It was really hard for that to feel authentic and then all of sudden, and I don't know, when all of a sudden it's whoa, what the hell? Where did that come from? It came from.
because it is your birthright. It is who you really are. So stop fixing yourself cause you're not broken. You are sparkly. Gorgeously, fabulous and awesome. So tell next time, this is Lisa. See you later. Gorgeous. Bye-Bye.
